It’s true but technically she’s called a psycho-therapist.
I decided to make an appointment with her because I sensed my life was starting to go off the rails a few weeks back. I was sleeping in longer, having trouble concentrating and feeling a general sense of dread and malaise. I woke up one morning and rather than go to the gym as I had planned, sat nearly catatonic in my kitchen for 45 minutes, unable to move.
I honestly think that everyone, at one time or another should see a shrink, or at least some type of counselor to help gain some perspective and keep their life on track. Your friends are too close, and mentors tend to be too distant and focused on just one niche of your life. When things start to go off the rails, you need to take a holistic approach under the guidance of a professional. It helps too if they share at least some of your personal values. In my case I sought out a counselor who also shares my faith so that there wouldn’t be any spiritual conflict.
High octane entrepreneur types like me tend to ignore the signs and end up crashing with spectacular speed and maximum destruction. I didn’t want that to be me! So how did I know it was time to see a shrink? After I broke out of my catatonic state that morning I did a survey of my life and found at least seven signs that I was headed for a crash.
1 – My Gym Bag was dusty
I had gotten up that morning fully planning to go to the gym but I hadn’t made it there in 5 days and the longer I waited the worse it got. Physical health is paramount to mental health and when your commitment to exercise starts to slip that should be the first sign that you are about to go off the rails.
2 – I was self medicating
Junk food is my Achilles heel. It’s not the worst vice there is, I’ve never self medicated with drugs or alcohol but mindlessly eating potato chips and cookies still only provides temporary relief and is not a cure for anything.
3- I had a squirrel brain
I was struggling to stay present even when there was nothing pressing going on, constantly checking social media, and email trying to make sure I didn’t miss anything.
4 – While at the same time I was ignoring important things
Leaving people hanging, not responding to questions or requests for information that were going to take more than a few minutes to answer. Completely avoiding tasks that were going to be hard and possibly stressful. Screening calls from colleagues and clients and ignoring emails.
5 – I hadn’t taken any time off in over a year
Not even a long weekend. I was working 6 days a week and thinking about work 18+ hours a day. It was exhausting.
6 – I had a short fuse
7 – I was snarky
I mean, I was resentful of other people’s joy. Seeing pictures of vacations, family fun times and other relaxing moments on Facebook and Instagram was making me angry and I couldn’t look away.
So that’s when I sought out a shrink.
I now have professional help to give me perspective and get me back on track. If you see yourself in any of the things I described above, please do the world a favor and seek help too. There is no shame in admitting that you can’t do it on your own. Your mental health is too important to leave unattended and your friends and mentors, while an important part of maintaining balance, aren’t qualified to fix you when you are broken.